Everyone has been there. Trying to think of something to write, a new idea, something to get you started… and nothing. You come up with a blank — frozen with some weird sort of paralysis.
Why is that?
When you really want something you suddenly become unable to perform, unable to do the thing that you really want to do. This resistance to do the thing that we really want to, and sometimes need to, is so counter intuitive — adding to the frustration. This feeling can be so overwhelming, the equivalent to being dumped in the ocean, the water tumbling you around, pushed into your nose and ears, shaking you up until you don’t know which way is up anymore. And then, to make it worse, you can start thinking about all the successful people you know, thinking they have it sorted and they know what they are doing…
So how to get started?
Stop thinking about other people
Who cares about what they are doing or what they think. Really, just don’t care in the nicest possible way. Most people don’t try to live their dreams because they’re held back by the thought of what other people will think about them. Most of the time, these ‘other people’ aren’t even thinking about you (not because they are awful, they have their own stuff going on). Thinking about what other people think (if they aren’t your customers, clients or readers) won’t help you achieve your own success any quicker, in fact it will hold you back. So spend less time thinking about them and more time thinking about what you want.
Break it down
Perhaps you’re trying to do too much. Work out what needs to happen for you to complete your task. Just start with one small thing — this will help you get closer to where you want. It’s also useful to keep in mind that you can’t actually do too much in one day. Try to keep your list small but focused — three things max for any one day!
Focus on one thing
Don’t get distracted! It feels easier to do something else — but don’t! Resist the urge. Don’t clean your home, don’t check your emails and don’t call a friend! It’s ok to stare out the window and think, but try to do some work even if it feels hard. Unfortunately the hard work won’t do itself.
Have faith in yourself and your dreams. What’s the worst that could happen? Yes, you might fail but you’ll learn from it. The not doing is a bigger failure as you do nothing and you learn nothing.
Just do it
Stop thinking and just do it. It’s as simple as it sounds. Don’t worry about being afraid. Just take a deep breath and go for it. If it’s not life threatening, it won’t kill you. It might not be perfect — but it will be ok! Do what you need to do to get you closer to your goals. Write, publish, make. Whatever you do, put it out there and have faith.